yoni massage guide

 
When you think massage, you don’t typically tend to think of our nether regions but it might just be the area we’re missing from our wellness routine. We’re all familiar with the Swedish, hot stone, aromatherapy and deep tissue massage, but the Yoni massage is quietly becoming the latest step in women's self-care regimes.
We spoke to head girl Ellie at the leading tantric massage brand, Karma Tantric, to have every single question we have about yoni massage answered.

What exactly is a yoni massage?


A Yoni massage is a massage that stimulates the female sacred space or genital area, known in Sanskrit as the 'Yoni'.

Tantric masseuses vary in their approach, and it's often a case of personal preference and the experience of the masseuse you choose, but the general steps below outline the tantric massage.
  1. Grounding Touches
  2. Typically the masseuse and women experiencing the massage would be nude and lying down with a towel over however you will usually start by lying face down with a towel over your body. The person massaging you will start to perform movements and touches with their hands. The purpose of this is to reenergise the body.
  3. Energy Spread

    The towel will be removed and the focus will move to massaging your back with warm oil. You'll feel sensations on the back, shoulders, arms, to your buttocks. It's all about the spread of energy to activate your kundalini energy.
  4. Erotic Awakening

    The masseuse stimulates other areas of your body, extending her touch to your pelvis in a motion similar to the experience of sex, whilst caressing your body parts.
  5. Turning Over

    You'll be asked to turn over and lie on your back to expose the pelvis who you will be able to create eye contact with. This involves a lot of eye gazing to solidify an erotic and deeper connection.
  6. The Lingham or Yoni Massage
    Although there's been some stimulation, the massage will then bring attention to the lingham or yoni. Maximising their touch, your masseuse will arouse different part of your genitals to energise your erogenous zone, which can be extremely pleasurable.
  7. Energy Release
    Traditional tantric massages aim to stimulate a full body orgasm that doesn't include physical ejaculation, however modern tantric massages include an intense climax.
  8. Cool Down
    After achieving climax, every touch is more sensitive and the masseuse will leave you to take in the tranquility of this state. The majority of masseuses will use hot towels to rub on your body and take off the oils.
  9. Can you tell me about the history of the yoni massage?

    Yoni massage history is closely entwined with the history of Tantra, as Yoni massage is actually derived from Tantra. First recorded texts that relate to tantric practice date back as far as 300CE and are evident in Hinduism and Buddhism.

    What are the benefits of the yoni massage?

    In my experience providing Yoni Massage to my clients, many women visit me to help with:
    Painful menstruation: As the massage stimulates the blood flow in the area.
    Painful sexual intercourse: Yoni massage helps to awaken the genital area, using breathing techniques to relax the muscles around the vagina and allow more relaxed intercourse.
    Improvement of sexual relationships: I have worked with many clients to help unlock a fear of intimacy and touch, improve trust, confidence and develop an increase in sex drive.
    Releasing energy: Yoni massage techniques promote unblocking of channels to achieve a greater connection with the mind, body and soul. My clients feel more connected after a session, with their mind and their body.
    Achieving more intense orgasms: Yoni massage creates connection and a balance of the body. The mind is cleared and together this allows for a more intense, 'cleaner' orgasm that can be far superior to anything my clients may have felt before.
    How long does the yoni massage last?
    Usually I recommend a Yoni massage session to last 90 minutes, however I can perform one in 60 minutes if time is an issue. Any less than 60mins is simply not enough time to gain the full benefits of the session.
    Is the massage usually done by a female or male masseuse?
    Yoni massage can be performed equally well by either a male or female masseuse. As long as they are properly trained of course. Some females prefer a female to perform the massage as they feel more at ease and less vulnerable in the company of a female. Yoni massage is often performed by women, on women, which raises questions like 'Am I a lesbian if I let a female massage my Yoni?'. Of course the answer is no, all types of females can enjoy a Yoni massage without specifically being aroused by female company.
    In a recent survey we conducted, we found that 60% of straight women said they would consider a Yoni massage performed by another woman. It's more about being in touch with your own body and mind, letting go of your anxieties and blockages that stop you from being you.
    It's useful to note that many men and couples also come to see me to learn how to perform Yoni massage on their partners. Learning to please your partner in this way can be very rewarding and help to reestablish a sensual connection in your relationship that may have faded.

    Do you think the yoni massage itself is a form of feminist relaxation?

    I think that Yoni massage is an excellent way for females to relax in any aspect as well as empower themselves. Taking control of your body and mind is a tool that females should embrace and that Yoni massage can help women achieve. I believe we need to start seeing this type of therapy as a professional, viable and accessible practice to improve sexual health, the same way we see psychology or osteopathy. The entanglement of female shame within sexuality is holding many females back from accessing the incredible benefits of this type of massage.

    Why do you think there's such a stigma surrounding the yoni massage?

    I think anything that even touches on sexuality can be seen as either exciting or taboo in our world and with that comes feelings of shame or judgment. Even if it is therapeutic with regards to sexual health, it is sometimes frowned upon in our 'British' culture. The truth is, behind the scenes, there is a vibrant sexual movement that means many people enjoy the benefits of services such as this, it's just not openly spoken about. The boundaries that separate sexual health practices such as Yoni massage compared to other services such as escorting or prostitution are certainly not clear to most of society. We need to eradicate the shame we feel for wanting to be sexual or for attending to our sexual health needs.

    What do women enjoy most about it?

    After working in the industry for over 10 years, I have certainly had many compliments from my Yoni clients.
    One client that comes to mind is a lady who came to me with very low self-esteem after her divorcing her husband where she was in a mentally abusive relationship.
    Her confidence levels were very low and she had developed a fear of intimate touch. She was also particularly self conscious about her body and had gained weight as a result of the bad head space she was in.
    Our sessions lasted just over 6 months where we worked on all the areas that she was struggling with. One day she called to explain that she would not wish to visit me any further for the time being. I was a little taken aback as I was certain we had made incredible progress working together, so I asked if she would be so kind as to explain why.
    It seems that our work together had given her the confidence to start dating again and she had now found a partner. I was really very pleased, proud and so flattered that she had made it out of the negative space she was in and could not pursue a happy future with her new partner.
    sources:glamour.com

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